[sluggo]

to finalize this, the new pump was put in, and everything worked just fine!! Pumping like crazy!! So to summarize a bit, Dometic makes the red pump that comes with the boat (and that was the pump that finally worked) . supposedly they make a generic pump that has the same characteristics as the red pump, but is blue without Dometic on the pump (really I dont know if this is true or I got BS) anyway the blue is about $100 cheaper, and that's what we started with and did not work. We sent it back and got the Red, and put it in with no problems and it, as mentioned is working fine.
So was the blue pump a defective? or did it just not have enough humpf to work? I dont know but I am happy to have my A/C back.